sexual knowledge

Satisfaction of sexual needs occurs mainly during sexual intercourse. But what if sex is not important for a person or he even completely refuses it? Why is this happening? Usually in such a situation, the first word that comes to mind is “frigidity”. But there are other terms that can reveal the essence of the problem.

What is "sexual frigidity"?

Frigidity is determined not so much by a reluctance to have sex, but rather by a lack of interest in sex in general. A person can have sex, but does not feel such a need. Coldness can be both in women and men, and appear at different ages. Frigidity does not depend on orientation: both homosexual and heterosexual people can be frigid.

Very often, sexual coldness manifests itself to a specific person, and not to all people. The daily routine in the bedroom can lead to coldness, which affects people's relationships in the long run.

It can also be psychological factors, including chronic stress. Frigidity can develop in religious people who have received the wrong sex education.

The symptoms of sexual frigidity are obviously a lack of interest in sex and masturbation, and a lack of sexual fantasies. For frigid people, sex is not desirable, but this does not mean that they do not prefer other forms of intimacy. Treatment of frigidity is based on the diagnosis of the cause and its elimination.

Attention! Do not confuse frigidity with sexual abstinence due to religious and ethical beliefs (preserving "purity" before marriage), due to health problems (anatomical defects, medical recommendations, the postpartum period in women) or abstinence developed due to fear (for example, fear sexual intercourse). Abstinence can also be based on a person's lifestyle, such as a recent breakup with a partner or living alone as a conscious choice.

What is sexual disgust?

Sexual aversion refers to an aversion to sex and related activities. This mainly applies to women. The causes of sexual hostility lie in the psychological sphere and can relate to many issues. First of all, these are physiological aspects. People suffering from disgust may feel dislike for their partner: his appearance, smell, including the smell of intimate places.

Secondly, it may be a negative experience from the past, such as a painful "first time", sexual abuse, including harassment and rape. Disgust can also be caused by the imposition of certain sexual standards or partner fantasies. For example, it may appear in a woman who does not want to agree to oral sex, threesome sex, or the use of erotic toys.

Symptoms of sexual dislike include aversion to intimacy, as well as aversion to the thought of sex, being touched, or even being touched! Such people avoid sex, and if forced, it does not give them pleasure.

When sexual aversion occurs, the help of a specialist is required. With this question, you should contact a sexologist, who not only diagnoses the reasons for not wanting sex, but also prescribes individual therapy that can restore a positive attitude and pleasure from intimacy. Partner support is very important. However, this is a difficult moment for a relationship. After all, none of us would like to know that our other half does not want intimacy with us.

What is asexuality?

Asexuality is seen as a different sexual orientation (other than homo-, hetero- and bisexuality), or as its absence. The causes of asexuality are not known, but it is believed that asexuality is biologically determined and cannot be influenced. The main symptom of asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone. Such a person does not experience sexual excitement towards women or men. He does not find sex attractive and prefers other forms of intimacy; emotional support is very important to him. Asexuality is not treated because it is not considered a disease.

As you can see, these terms, which we often use interchangeably, mean something completely different. Frigidity is a lack of interest in sex due to physiological or psychological factors. And sexual disgust is a squeamish attitude towards sex, which appeared due to certain reasons, including biological and emotional ones. Both conditions are correctable.

Unlike them, asexuality is something permanent, something that cannot be changed or cured. People are born with asexuality, and frigidity and disgust can appear at any time in life. It is worth keeping this in mind so as not to use the above terms in the wrong context.