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26 Oct| 23 Comments
What happens to a woman's body if there is no sex for a long time?

“Use it or lose it”, that is, “use it or it will disappear” - this rule, among other things, applies to muscles. And figuratively to the genitals? How does the female body change if there is no sex for a long time?

If women have not had sex for a long time, then the return to sexual activity may not go as smoothly as we would like. This is confirmed by Dr. med. Doris Maria Gruber. A woman may be slower to respond to stimulation and hydrate less quickly. Then it can interfere with having sex.

But the lost "appetite" can be revived and stimulated. “He comes with love to a tender and interesting partner,” explains the gynecologist. The desire to have children can also increase libido.

What does it mean not to have sex "for a long time"?

Fortunately, this is completely individual. For some, a week without sex seems endless. Others easily go through several months without "physical activity".

Is it possible to wean from sex?

The wording is not quite right. But if women (and men!) abstain from sex for a long time, then the level of sexual desire decreases. According to the principle “out of sight, out of mind”. It is like a stomach that becomes smaller over time if it has received very little food for a long period of time.

And a drop in libido is a normal physical reaction to a "drought" and, in fact, a good one. If things were otherwise, it would bring a lot of inconvenience and suffering to a person.

Is there "vaginal depression" if a woman has not had sex for a long time?

Various media outlets warn of "vaginal depression", also known as "vaginal atrophy". Women's genitalia are believed to atrophy (= regress) if they are not used for sexual purposes for a long time. And that due to the lack of stimulation, the walls of the vagina are less well supplied with blood, for this reason elasticity is lost. It sounds dramatic, and it really can happen, Professor Gruber confirms, but it usually happens a little later - due to age.

The explanation has little to do with sex: during menopause, less and less of the female sex hormone estrogen is produced, and as a result, vaginal secretion, which is important for collagen fibers and, therefore, the connective tissue of the vaginal wall, weakens. Atrophy of the vaginal mucosa is actually only a problem from a certain age, but women can and should deal with it with creams! But "A young vagina easily secretes a secret," the doctor says, "during or without sex." If the moisture problem occurs earlier, then it has a pathological cause and should be investigated.

First sex after abstinence: what to look for?

Since the mucous membranes during the first act cannot be quickly moistened, there is a possibility of minor injuries. Therefore, according to Professor Gruber, protection against infections is especially important after abstinence. “You should also listen to yourself,” adds the doctor, “and figure out how best to proceed.” And also do not forget about the intimate gel!


The fact that the vagina completely dries up and "degrades" is, of course, nonsense. In the broadest sense of the word, you can say “use it or lose it”, but we are talking about sex itself: it ceases to be important, they are not interested in it. It's not dangerous to health, but it's still better with sex than without it.

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